'He hid the a la carte menu': Who should pay on the first date

An important development from the financial markets: 'He hid the a la carte menu': Who should pay on the first date22 minutes ago Share Save Add as preferred on GoogleYasmin RufoBBCFew topics divide opinion quite like who should pay on a first date. Ask a group of friends and you'll likely get a dozen different answers. Some insist the bill should always be split equally, others believe the person who sets up the date should pay and despite changing attitudes towards gender roles, many still see a man picking up the bill as a romantic gesture rather than an outdated tradition.

With cocktails regularly topping £15, restaurant bills climbing and many keeping a close eye on their budgets, even a casual evening out can quickly become expensive. Adults across the UK spend more than £111 per month on dates and dating apps, equating to more than £1,300 per year, according to research from Barclays in 2025, For under 30s in particular, cost is a great barrier as over half of Gen Z adults feel the expense impacts their ability to go on dates. Jennifer Read-DominguezJennifer says dating apps have made romance feel increasingly transactional so she appreciates "a man who plans a date, opens doors and picks up the bill"Jennifer Read-Dominguez, a digital editor who is currently single, believes whoever asks for a first date should be prepared to pay for it.

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She says women "can absolutely foot the bill themselves but that's not the point". "Sometimes it's nice to take a step back from always being the one making decisions and simply enjoy feeling feminine and being looked after. " For her, a man paying on a first date is not about dependence or inequality but "effort and keeping some traditional gestures alive in modern dating".

'His card declined so I had to pay'Jennifer says the amount spent matters far less than the thought behind it and she'd be just as happy being taken to a fast-food restaurant as a high-end one, but it's important that it's "within their means. "She went on one date where a man took her to an expensive restaurant, complained about the cost and suggested they split the bill. When his card failed, Jennifer ended up paying for the entire meal.

"He said he'd pay me back, but he never did. I could afford it, but that's not the point. "The experience left her feeling taken advantage of.

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"I think he assumed I'd simply absorb the cost and I did but I felt used. " Yasmin El-SaieYasmin believes that if she's asked on a date the man should be prepared to pay and it's more about the gesture than the money Yasmin El-Saie is a content creator from London who says she would be "put off if a man expected us to split the bill on a first date". "When a man pays, he's showing he wants his date to feel comfortable and looked after," she says.

"Maybe it's a double standard and down to my upbringing, but I still find it attractive. "That doesn't mean she expects men to pay for everything - if a date continues elsewhere, she is happy to contribute.

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