'They made my mum give me up because she was unmarried'

A significant story is unfolding on the international scene. 'They made my mum give me up because she was unmarried'Image source, ContributedImage caption, Reg Barker was adopted when he was three and a half years oldByAlice Cunningham, Suffolk and Louise HullandPublished4 hours agoA man whose biological mother was forced to give him up for adoption said it took him 45 years to trace his birth family. Reg Barker, 66, from Mildenhall in Suffolk, found out he was adopted aged 18 when applying for a passport. Over the years, he learnt he had been born in Bristol and that his mother had been pressured by hospital staff to give him up for adoption.

The government said last week it would be issuing an apology to the victims of historical forced adoptions in England. An estimated 185,000 babies were taken from mothers in the three decades after World War Two. Mothers were pressured into giving up their babies because they were unmarried.

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Barker found out about his personal history when he decided to go abroad on holiday. "Obviously, to get a passport you need your birth certificate," he explained. "I asked mum and dad for my birth certificate and they gave it to me and it had a different name on it...

that's when they told me that I was adopted. "It was a complete shock. I didn't have a clue.

Growing up, there were no indications. "Image source, ContributedImage caption, Reg Barker was in his 60s when he was able to meet his half-siblingsBarker said he developed a strong sense of wanting to know who his biological parents were. He started by contacting social services who then directed him to the Salvation Army — the Christian movement.

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The Salvation Army was successful in finding his adoption papers which gave some details about his mother. He learnt that he had been born in Bristol and as a baby he had been unwell. His mother had been single and was pressurised by hospital staff to give him up so he could be cared for by a baby and toddler service and be adopted.

For three and a half years he was with that service, and his mother visited once a week before he was adopted. While he had no recollections of her, and said his adopted parents had been "brilliant", Barker felt robbed of memories of his biological mother. "For me that meant no bedtime hugs, no bedtime stories, no Christmases, no birthdays," he said.

"No Mother's Days, no Father's Days, no going on holidays, no getting walked to school or her seeing school productions, anything like that. "That can't be replaced. " Image source, ContributedImage caption, Reg Barker said his adoptive parents (pictured) had understood his need to find out more about his biological familyBarker said his quest for information as a young man had been hard on his adoptive mother as she feared he would leave and move back to Bristol.

The story has become one of the most prominent items on the global agenda.